{"id":73,"date":"2021-07-01T10:50:24","date_gmt":"2021-07-01T14:50:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/story2write.com\/?p=73"},"modified":"2024-08-06T13:35:25","modified_gmt":"2024-08-06T17:35:25","slug":"watching-him-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/story2write.com\/index.php\/2021\/07\/01\/watching-him-go\/","title":{"rendered":"Watching Him Go"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>My son drove off to his summer job this morning. Not a big deal you might say, but it was for me. It was his first time solo driving on a long drive \u2013 one hour over winding roads and commuter-filled freeways. He is a new driver, one with the necessary skills, but inexperienced simply because time hasn\u2019t put enough close-calls and \u201cthat was not smart of me\u201d encounters in his path.<\/p>\n<p>So like any mother, I worry. I&nbsp;reassured myself that he is a careful and smart person. After all, he has no death wish \u2013 he will be careful. But, he is my son and I want to protect him, keep him safe. It was not too long ago, so it seems, the night before he <a href=\"http:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/small-driver-867577_1280.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-71 size-large\" src=\"http:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/small-driver-867577_1280-1024x680.jpg\" alt=\"small-driver-867577_1280\" width=\"1024\" height=\"680\" srcset=\"https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/small-driver-867577_1280-1024x680.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/small-driver-867577_1280-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/small-driver-867577_1280.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a>turned five, that he promised me that he would always stay little and not grow up. But his hair has changed from blonde to light brown and he has grown two feet in stature. He plays guitar, mows the lawn, understands complex equations, chemical and mathematical, holds two part-time jobs, and \u2026 he drives a car. He\u2019s growing up and is a fine young man \u2013 it\u2019s time for me to start letting go and loosening those proverbial apron strings.<\/p>\n<p>But that is the hard part.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve reached that time in life that parents always talk about, \u201cwait until you have children of your own, then you\u2019ll understand.\u201d And as I look back to my experience with my Dad, I see that the \u201cletting go,\u201d the caring and worry never totally stops.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>For twenty years, from the time we had our first little one until my father began to struggle with his health, Dad would walk our family out to the car as we were leaving from our visit to my parent\u2019s home. We would say our goodbyes and I would begin to pull away. Dad always stood very close to the car and I would say, \u201cStand back!\u201d and be concerned that I would run over his toes. I was even annoyed that he always stood so close.<\/p>\n<p>Somehow this came up in a conversation I had with my brother. \u201cYou know why he does that don\u2019t you? He always touches the car and prays for your safety,\u201d he said. And sure enough, next time I pulled away from my parents\u2019 house, I checked the mirror. There was Dad\u2019s hand on the back of the car and I knew he was whispering a silent prayer of blessing. So for the next several years, the silent ritual continued \u2013 my Dad\u2019s blessing, but the annoyance in my heart replaced with gratitude that my Dad loved us in this way.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/driving-562613_1280.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-72\" src=\"http:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/driving-562613_1280-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"driving-562613_1280\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/driving-562613_1280-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/driving-562613_1280-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/story2write.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/driving-562613_1280-220x220.jpg 220w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>So it continues. I hugged my son goodbye this morning. He walked out the door and I closed it behind him. I gave him the freedom to pull away on his own, without my hovering stare. But as I retreated to my desk upstairs, I whispered a silent prayer of safety for him and a prayer of peace for me. It\u2019s what we parents do.<\/p>\n<p>An hour later, my typing was interrupted by a ding on my cell phone. \u201cI\u2019m here safely. Heart. Thumbs up,\u201d reads the text. He\u2019s growing up. Loosen the strings.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My son drove off to his summer job this morning. Not a big deal you might say, but it was for me. 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